"The point is, life is changing as we know it and in five years we are going to be at our ten year reunion bragging about our spouses and kids. Let's be the class to brag about accomplishments, not divorces."
-Shelby (4/18/15) pre-divorce.
Life always has a curve ball up its sleeve.
I am crying from laughing at that girl who wanted to be so perfect. Showcasing her life as if she was going to win a damn trophy or something. Someone please take the Delorean back in time and slap her in the face.
Truth be told, I knew then that divorce was my fate. When you consistently tell people you never want to be married because you never want to be divorced; it was pretty much encoded in my DNA from birth. I was exhausting every resource I had by trying not to believe it. I never wanted that title. Divorcee. Like it's the plague or scabies. Flash forward to many fights and a jail sentencing later and I can smile saying I have earned that title(almost).
Divorce was easier than re-registering for college classes actually. That really doesn't surprise me considering the marriage was so easy to plan as well. I guess it all boils down to perspective and how stubborn you are. Thankfully Josh and I get along amazing for two people who should not have made a life long commitment to one another. We talk more now than we did with a piece of paper binding us together. Again, all based on perspective. We can sit and be angry that we didn't make a bad situation last, or we can laugh and smile that our kid is going to have one hell of an adventure with us as her parents.
Through all of this mess though, divorce hasn't made me a bitter person towards love. I'm still going to be a hopeless romantic. I will still cry every time Sandra Bullock kisses Harry Connick Jr in Hope Floats. I'm not letting divorce make me in to some cliche either. One of those "New life/only positives/I'll find you prince charming" girls. I'm a basic white bitch but only with my Starbucks order.
If you've read this far I am getting to the point here I promise. Nystroms and Nugget will be going off-air. It was fun while it lasted and sharing our lives and thoughts with everyone was just the beginning for me. I will return to the bloggosphere under a new name shortly. My mini-me has become a really cool sassy toddler and I need to document it. Plus, I'm not done being an opinionated smart-ass who wants to share her thoughts.
xo-Newly appointed Bocharski
